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Thursday, December 31, 2009

2010... OHH LA LA...

Before 2009 ends, I thank all the good people like you, who made the passing year beautiful for me...I pray that we will be blessed with another Fruitful year... The clock is ticking, and 2010 is at your doorstep.



Remember
life is short, break the rules, forget quickly, love truly, laugh uncontrollably, and never regret anything that made you smile. Every new year, we always hope for a new beginning of things that we plan to do. We will have memories of the past year, and believe that the coming new year is a better one.



I don't have much achievements, the only thing that I always proud is that I have a supportive family, lovely children, understanding friends, caring colleagues and wonderful people around me.


NEW YEAR 2010 = NEW AIM + NEW ACHIEVEMENT +
NEW DREAM + NEW IDEA + NEW THINKING + NEW AMBITION = NEW LIFE!

  • I need to spend more time with kids (minus the scold and scream hahaha, terrible mom)
  • I want to do 100 charities in 2010 and keep going!
  • I wish to buy a laptop (sounds easy, but not easy ohhh)
  • I hope to learn a new skill (manicure would be great, or even knitting or sewing... just something new)
  • I would love to get to know more friends, and grab a new hobby!
  • I must do more exercise to stay healthy!
  • I will eat healthily and lose some weight (I just can't buy clothes yet!) hahaha
  • I love to sing and dance, can I club more and karaoke more?
YAM SING!

Saturday, December 26, 2009

LOVE NO MORE

I can barely remember what had happened in my 'previous marriage', I just look forward to happy days with my kids and family now.

Friends who are closed to me, will know the real reasons of my divorced, meanwhile, those new friends, or long lost friends who never keep in touch will have 'question marks' why I choose this path of road.

I got married when I was 24, hoping for a happy marriage, with the man whom I thought I really fell in love with, and I was in 'dark' for a few years. I had miserable life, but being a positive person, I always tell myself, I have to ignore the bad things and continue to live happily.

Here are some occasions, some are really shocking :)

NEVER A FATHER
  • He was there during the 1st child birth, and during the 2nd child birth, he purposely disapearred for a while, and came back (when baby was out), and said he "pantang" hahaha, I laugh until today, what a crap!
  • Best part, after my 2nd child was born, he told me he wasn't ready to be a father!
  • The most amazing sentence from his mouth, he said that I didn't contribute to the family (and this makes me feel that I have to leave him as soon as I can, no way to be with such a jerk)
  • He smoked while carrying my eldest son, who was just a few day old
  • He said that my eldest son cried too much, so during my confinement (less than 5 days after delivery), he asked me and my eldest son to sleep at the living hall (I was staying with my aunty, and she was so upset seeing us sleeping out there) - such a cruel human being! But I still can tolerate, as I hate to argue
  • The angpow we received during fullmoon and birthdays, he would take the money and I just kept the 'gifts', which he couldn't transfer them into cash... really amazing.
  • I try to calculate how many cans of milk he bought for my eldest son, less than 10, I think! His money all well spent on cigarettes, food and change parts of his car
  • My eldest son, so small, both always argued and he said that I paid too much attention to my child. What? He must be nuts! Baby doesn't know how to make drinks or bath, if as a mom I didn't take care of baby, what else should I do? *fainted*
  • During the confinement of 2nd baby, he dropped by few days once. Wow, he just stayed 5mins away, and it took him few days to visit. We were already not staying together by then. When he walked into the house, baby was in the cradle sleeping. I asked him, "You can see the baby and hug him", he replied, "No need" and he sat there without looking at his own son at all. What a wonderful father!
TERRIBLE HUSBAND
  • He always drive very fast and if he was in bad mood, the speed can be frightening (I'm thankful that I am still alive!) - drive fast and scared other drivers.
  • When we buy new handphones, I always end up having the lower value one, what the hell, I paid for both!
  • He purposely break the huge wedding picture frame during one of the argument (really violent) I was lucky he didn't kill me!
  • He knew how much I was earning, he make sure that I paid for room rental, children's stuff and everything, he knew that I won't ask him for money
  • Never give allowance. Once in a blue moon, he will give me RM 500, and then, within the same month, he will ask back and sometimes, asked for more.. fainted! I just so stupid!
  • During argument, he always say, why I don't cook, I told him, we were staying with aunty, how to cook, not my kitchen. Freaking nuts!
  • When I was pregnant, I was still carrying 10kg clothes to laundry, he won't care
  • I went alone for pre-natal check-ups
  • No vacation, unless I plan & paid for it
  • Always buy new clothes to wear and I can't buy, because the budget he spent all... aiih!
  • Don't allow me to put on even lipstick, he said I looked like "monkey's buttock" hahaha, I am laughing now! what a crap!
  • Both phone lines were under my name, the credit limit was RM 800 I think. He never paid in full, and I ended up always pay for the phone calls to make sure that the lines were active...

WONDERFUL ATTITUDE
  • Every morning, I'll prepare toothbrush with toothpaste on top for him. Out of 10 times, 8 times the toothpaste still there, he never brushes his teeth.
  • When he was back to the bedroom, he threw his socks all over, and when I asked him why he didn't put in the laundry basket, he said, "I want to make sure you have work to do"... oh gosh, I have to work in the morning, do all the house-chores and this is the additional work for me, how wonderful!
  • He didn't like me going out with my friends (he knew 99% of my friends and colleagues)
  • He will make sure that he calls a few times when I was out with my friends, for dinner or birthday - and he knew who I went out with (just want to make my life miserable and make me leave and go home early)
  • There was a time, I went out with my girlfriends to 'Finnegans, Bangsar'. It was one of my girlfriends' birthday, so we went there for snacks and drink. He called a few times. 1st call, asked me to buy cigarettes, 2nd call asked me to buy 'extension cord'... bloody hell! He purposely wanted to make my outing sucks! After several calls, asking me to buy numerous items, he also appeared, while we were in the pub, cutting and distributing cakes. He thought I went out with guys, because I passed around cakes to all girls and guys, he thought those were my buddies, crazy man!
  • Everytime when I go out with friends, he called every 30mins and asked me what time I go home... come on la...
  • When we went out for shopping, he will walk and left me alone, no hold hands at all.

  • Love to order lots of food, and waste money - we can't finish!
  • He loves to go out, and seldom at home


  • He bought porn VCDs, and I think when I spring clean, I threw away like 200 VCDs... really crazy!
  • When he online at my mom's place, he went to those porn websites, omaigod, my sister, mom were at home... really creepy!
GAMBLER
  • He was in spare-parts business - had to give credit terms to his customers. Business was good, but the terms weren't as good, as he needed more money to roll. I started to help, and he always visit those gambling spots, and told me that he wanted to earn some extra cash. He took my credit cards, and swipe as he liked. He never pay me any minimum, I had to bear for all. At first, I thought that it was for his business, but later part, I discovered that he was actually gambling and that habit can't be stopped. Lies after lies and never ended!
  • He pawned all my jewelry
  • One bet for World cup, RM 15,000 - and there was one time, I can remember so clearly. He called me during lunch, and forced me to call my rich friends to borrow money from them
  • He forced me to call my relatives to borrow money from them
  • Every night, he was at Gold Valley, a gambling spot beside Mid Valley, he told me, he could earn some points that could convert into cash (whatever la)
  • When I first joined my current Company (in fact, we've already separated), he got a job in Citibank and he asked RM 50 from me everyday. Wow, he thought I print money. When I said I don't have (which I really don't have enough), he would say that he will make a scene in my office, how terrible.
SERIAL LIAR
  • He always 'blow-big' on whatever topic he says - my family members discovered that and we always laughed about it (I normally keep quiet when he speaks, so that I let him talk whatever he thinks he wanted to say, but almost all the time, he keep on praising himself... aiyer, tak tau malu.. I felt so ashamed, but I kept quiet, no point argue)
BAD-MOUTHED / BAD-HEARTED PERSON
  • He make bad comments on everyone of my family members & friends I know, and he always talk bad about his parents, and his siblings, where got people like this one? Really bad-hearted!
  • My mom quit her job to help me to babysit my children, and he was brave enough to say that my mom was bad, looked down on him (I wanted to laugh, my mom didn't ask for a single cent from him, and never complaint on anything)
  • He always argue with his father, and his father felt so sad. Both my ex-in-laws were good to me (in general) although they "pantang" to visit me during confinement hahaha I don't really mind la, old folks, I'm fine :)
  • When I go shopping, I sometimes will call my colleagues or friends, ask if they want me to help them to buy some stuff. He will say, "How come you so good, your friends are using you." huh? what?

Despite so many unfortunate events happened to me before, I always treat those occasions as part of learning. Even my aunty asked me why I made a mistake in choosing husband, hahaha, I really don't know how to answer.

All I know is, now, he is no longer exist and my children are growing up healthily and happily with the help of my lovely mom. Not easy to be a single mom, but I never regret. My children are my blessings.

LET'S TOAST FOR A HAPPIER LIFE! CHEERS!

Friday, December 25, 2009

PERFECT GIFTS...


I was thinking, when we receive gifts, how do we respond if we don't like them? Hahaha, just pretend to say, "Wow, this is lovely, thank you." (so fake) but it's still a courtesy to thank the sender. Some people just buy and give away gifts, that are not really useful to the recipient.

Sometimes, it could be a 'recycle gift' (sorry, this sound bad) and sometimes, maybe the sender should get to know the recipient before buying anything for him/her.


Other than birthdays, anniversaries, valentines, Christmas is a great season to give gifts. The feel is totally different. We give and we get some gifts, this is what we call a giving season. We give our love, care throughout the year, and people see us, and appreciate our hardwork and we might get a hug or kiss or a gift in return, how wonderful.


In the previous article, I've wrote about the "Fearful Christmas Gifts" hahaha *wink*. Today, let's see, what gifts that we normally prefer (in general):-


WATCH - I love watches, if anyone who wants to give me a gift, if the budget allows, just buy me a watch. (so hard sell) but in fact, I think watch is something we can wear everyday. If it is a nice watch, other people will notice and asks, "Nice watch, where did you get it?". If it's a gift, we'll remember the sender and smile away...


HANDBAGS - not those from Chinatown, any bags that's less than RM 300 looks good! From the all time favourite Guess (not my favourite though) to Nine West, Topshop, Nose, Eclipse, Bonia, these bags are of good quality and of a reasonable price and the designs are not bad.

PURSE/WALLET - we seldom change our purse/wallet everyday, most of us only change once the existing one looks old or torn. Sometimes, it somehow give a reason to change, because it's a Christmas gift... ohh lala...


EARRINGS/RINGS/NECKLACE - nice and reasonable priced accessories are found in Diva, Axxess or even Vincci. A trendy flower ring at RM 29 and a nice necklace at RM 49, this makes a great gift that we will wear in some occasions.


COSMETICS - Girls use lipstick almost everyday. Same goes to mascara and eyecolour. It's cool to get new colours as gifts :)


CHOCOLATES & COOKIES - when festive season comes, you'll see lots of important chocolates and these are real cool gifts. Some cookies are special too!



WINE
- no one will resist a bottle of good wine. Let's toast for a wonderful 2010~!




HA
NDPHONE - We see new models coming up almost everyday, even a 5-year old kid owns one, LOL



LAPTOP
- Maybe I don't have one, so this is fantastic! hahaha!



BOOKS - you may see what is your recipient favourite reading material. For those who are into photography, you can buy a book of photography skills. If he/she likes astrological stuff like me, you may consider to buy a new or great astrology books. It's not cheap, so I don't mind if you can get one for me hehehe!

DIGITAL CAMERA/DSLR - nowadays, most of the people who loves to snap pictures will have their own camera or DSLR, if it happens that your loved one like to snap pictures, you may consider one :)



Wednesday, December 23, 2009

FEARFUL CHRISTMAS GIFTS


When we talk about giving gifts for Christmas, a lot of things come into mind...

At times, we end up receiving funny gifts that we will not use, or just keep in the cabinet and discover many years later, and send those to the junk store or rubbish bins.


I normally give-away things that I received, and I don't use or I seldom use to others. Reason being, maybe my home is too small to keep too many stuff, so I rather give them away.


But of course, as human, we tend to accumulate and store things up! hahaha, not to say selfish, but also, feel 'sayang' to give-away gifts...



WHAT DO WE GENERALLY 'SCARED' TO RECEIVE... hahaha, below are the findings:-



1. Photo frames - how many photo frames do you think you can display, best part, you need to clean them up every week....arrrgghhhh



2. Photo album - don't forget that we seldom develop photos, they are all online and in soft copy, easy viewing and can be stored easily... do we really need so many albums? The photo albums I have, most of them are yellowish and dirty (too many years, since I was a kid)




3. Candles - no matter how cute they are, they are just candles, and when you display it, it attracts dust. Best part, when you burn it, from a beautiful candle, it becomes dark candle in just 1 hour... ops! no candles please - unless it's a date for a romantic dinner for 2!


4. Aromatheraphy fragrance or dried flowers - ooooo, what a crap, make sure it's branded, then you'll feel that it's a theraphy, hahaha! Some people just buy because it's cheap, and imagine that you've to smell it for the entire day... fainted! Branded one please!



5. Pasar malam parfume - don't think they are for real, RM 10 for a Calvin Klein fragrance, are you out of your mind? It will smell like 'gas' after a while, just don't buy, unless the recipient is your enemy! Wahahaha, just joking, don't try!



6. Chinatown branded bags - although most girls are desperate for their own LV bags, own Coach pouch and own Marc Jacobs sling bag... that doesn't mean you can cheat their feelings by giving them a Chinatown RM 78 LV hahaha... if you can't afford an expensive bag, just go to some boutiques, they have great quality bags at RM 80 - 120, at least, the bag is not of a 'fake chinatown brand' kau-meang ar!


In fact, there are still lots of unwanted gifts... it's your turn to think of your most unwanted gifts now! HO! HO! HO!

Tuesday, December 22, 2009

10 THINGS ABOUT LOSING WEIGHT





Not sure why some friends asked me to write about 10 things about kam-fei (means diet and lose weight). I wasn't the most successful among all, but losing 13 - 15kgs, was a great achievement and I'll never forget how big was my panties last time :)



I had another article of kam-fei earlier, can't remember much what I've written, this article is more to what to avoid and what to eat and what to do during diet (not professionally written but at least, you can see some real life experiences).



1 - AVOID DEVILS
Who are these devils? Delicious food? Yes, they are, but main devil will be those who always say, "You go on diet? You will definitely failed!" I had a few close buddies who never thought that I pull through the 3-month programme and lost some weight. I was a great companion for food, I always order more that we can eat. One principle, must eat, enjoy til we are full and have fun! During the kam-fei period, just see them less and don't be challenged by them. Real friends will encourage you and will eat healthily with you. I had a friend who bought me a new blouse to motivate me, how lovely she is...


2 - NO KFC, NO NASI LEMAK, NO SATAY, NO ROTI CANAI, NO ALCOHOL FOR 3 months
In actual fact, those who loves to eat nasi lemak, will eat nasi lemak at least once or twice a week, who can resist the spicy sambal and ayam rendang? I think some expert said, one packet of nasi lemak will need us to jog how many hours to burn the calories... hahaha... just 3 months, forget these super-yummy food!




3 - EAT AT THE RIGHT TIME, THE RIGHT QUANTITY
People always say, Breakfast is the most important meal that you've to eat before 9am. hahaha, to be honest, I only eat at 10am most of the time. It doesn't matter, as long as it's a healthy breakfast and another healthy lunch, it helps to supply good energy to your body.


During the dieting period, I always ask for half bowl of rice, or half bowl of noodles, JUST SAY IT DIRECT TO THE STALL AUNTY. Don't be shy of eating less, despite you having a fat body. You are paying for your own food, remember this! Also, if you have colleagues or friends who can eat half of your food, give it generously to them, instead of wasting the food.

Eat large amount of veggies, fruits and less sweet will do!


For dinner, if you have to work late, grab some snacks in the office at 5 or 6pm, and when you reach home, just drink a food replacement vanilla drink and go to bed. You won't feel hungry if you are sleeping. Remember, just for a few months, and everything will be fine...



4 - DO EXERCISE THAT YOU ENJOY
Most people will join gym so that they can get the maximum results with the help of those 6-pack gym instructors - wow, yummy! I would love to, but I didn't have the time & $$$ hehehe!

I started with yoga - I never yoga in my entire life, I started with DVDs at home, and fell in love with it. It works! I never joined any aerobic classese although I love to dance. KLCC Park, every Tuesday & Thursday 6-7pm, there will be free aerobic sessions in the park, sponsored by Petronas, the instructor is a cute malay lady, Umi :) Thanks Umi, I love attending your dance sessions.

Being such a fat woman, jogging is not advisable as I heard from the radio, it hurts our knees/joints. I walk (not really fast) and jog a little and walk more. Just keep on walking for 30-40 minutes at KLCC Park, it is refreshing.




5 - DON'T MEASURE TOO FAST!
Some people will start to measure their weight after 3 days of their diet programme. That's too fast, you can't see any results and that demotivating you. Forget it if you want fast result, your body is not ready for it! Losing weight is just like falling in love, you need time and patience. Your body needs time to adjust to your new eating habits and exercise, don't overwhelmed it unnecessarily.



In general, it's reasonable to lose 1 kg per week, and it will stagnant after a few kgs, and just be patient and continue to eat healthily and exercise at least 2 times a week - for busy people, just walk more.




6- ASK THOSE WHO HAD LOST WEIGHT FOR ADVISE - but don't follow it all!
Some people will only be interested to lose weight when they see their friends are losing weight. They will start to ask what product to consume, and how they do it. It's good for information sharing and gaining some tips. But NOT ALL TIPS ARE USEFUL. I've heard of people eating only 3 apples a day and jogging everyday and managed to lose more than 10kgs in a few weeks. That's abnormal! Our body is not equipped with the right nutrients and it's losing water!



7 - SELECT THE RIGHT SUPPLEMENTS FOR SUPPORT
Must try:- TRA (The Right Approach) from Pharmanex, Nu Skin Enterprises. Amazing products, which you have the chance to eat proportionately, the right protein, the right carbohydrates, veggies, fruits, and the best part about this TRA Programme is that, you learn how to lose weight effectively, effortless, while enjoying food. It's a programme that teaches you how to eat healthily, not much of restrictions and if you have a great motivator, you'll succeed! Those who said that they didn't lose weight, I still think they didn't follow the guidance, curi makan, or reward themselves after a few days of diet, is totally wrong. Be patient, it takes only 3 months to lose some weight, not difficult at all!

In Pharmanex range, you'll see some other supplements which is Lifepak and G3, eat those, your body immune system will be boosted up and you'll lose weight gracefully. Visit, www.nuskin.com or www.pharmanex.com. You'll love the products, from supplements to skincare!

Don't have to think of other brands which require you to drink 3 replacement meal drinks a day (you'll lose water, instead of fats and will damage your kidney). Don't get carried away by those people who are just trying to push sales, get a good motivator who can guide you through the process). I can help you if you want :)


8 - SET A REWARD FOR YOURSELF, NOT A TARGET
Most people will say, I want to lose 10kgs in 3 months. Isn't that a 'pressure'? When you started to weight yourself, and you just managed to lose 3kgs on the 2nd month, you feel like hitting your head against the wall! Dont' set it this way. If you are not losing weight (example 1kg per week for the 1st 2 months) analyse your eating habits and exercise patterns. It takes time to lose weight, and bare in mind, your body has been so bloody fat for so many years, and now you are asking those 'fats' to leave you, you think that's easy? hahaha!

Get some good friends or your parents to reward you if you are able to lose some weight. Perhaps holidays to your dream-land, when you are able to lose 10kgs in 3 to 6 months, don't be rigid to set at 3 month. Relax and enjoy the new you!


9 - GET A NEW HAIRCUT
By getting a new haircut, you will see how you've changed and how these changes bring in a new you.






10 - THROW AWAY OLD CLOTHES ONCE YOU CAN'T FIT THEM
Some people will tend to keep old clothes, especially those branded ones. If you are losing weight, THROW THEM AWAY! Don't tell me you want to fit into those hugs pants and blause again? Forget it, give away or throw!

Time for a new wardrobe and a NEW YOU!




HAPPY DIETING, HAPPY EATING, HAPPY LIVING! CHEERS!