It's weird that we always think about love. It's even weird when we think that love has to be between a girl and a guy... does it matter?In many beliefs, we got to know, God created us, to fall in love (in a relationship) a girl + a guy = relationship. However, think again, does it matter when it come to evaluate your happiness and your trust in a relationship.
A son can betrayed his father, when he is in debts. A brother can betray his own other brother when it comes to family business. Friends can always betray another friend when they fight for promotion in the same Company. A girlfriend can betray her boyfriend when she finds a better one out there. Who the hell who care what is love all about?Are we born with love or born to love?
Of course when a baby is born, he/she will be loved by his/her parents. Slowly, when he/she is growing, love will come into the picture where a baby will show by touching, hugging and kissing. No one can explain how or why it is happening. We are just born to be loved, and we love others too :D"WE FALL IN LOVE, HEART BREAKS, AND WE ARE SCARED. BUT, IF SOMEDAY, SOMEONE GOOD APPEAR BUT WE STEPPED BACK, WE LOOK AGAIN AND WE FEEL AFRAID. WE ARE AFRAID THAT WHAT 'IF' WE FALL IN LOVE AGAIN AND OUR HEART BREAKS AGAIN. BUT SOMEHOW, SOMEDAY, SOMEONE WILL LOVE US, FOR WHO WE ARE, AND RESPECT WHO WE'VE BECOME."
I always tell myself, I don't want to fall in love again. There is a Chinese proverb that says, "Once saw ghosts, who doesn't scare of darkness". hahaha, sounds familiar ya! But love happens... My mom loves me, and I love her so much. I love my kids, and my kids love me. I always tell them, not only to love mommy, love popo as well. It's wonderful when we are surrounded with our loved ones everyday.It doesn't really matter whether it's a love relationship or a friendship or a family-ship. It's love after all. We do care how it feels to be loved and we do want to share our love to others too!
I still remember one of my colleagues told me, "Candy, don't always think of how you can make your family happy first, think for yourself. Are you happy? Are you doing enough for yourself, to feel happy?" She was so right. Last time, I always wanted to find a 'father' for my children. That makes me limit my findings and felt that my family feelings were more important than anything else in the earth. She proved me wrong. She was right. She said, "If the guy loves you, eventually, he will love your family." And now, I know, she was so right and I moved on happily.
In fact, I told myself I needed someone to be with me, to feel my 'emptiness'. Loneliness is not as bad as emptiness. I don't think I was lonely, I was just empty. I wanted to go for a movie and I realised my friends watched those movies with their husband or boyfriends. I wanted to go for a dinner, and I realised that everyone else had a date. I wanted to go somewhere for a walk, and I realised that everyone was rushing home for some reasons. I do want to go home too, but I just want to break-away from office and home for a little while. Who do I turn to? Do it alone? Oh, I can't, I don't eat alone, I can't shop alone, I felt weird!!!!
I needed someone to go out with me, takes care of me, eat with me, hug me when I need a hug, laugh with me, talk to me, sms me and ask if I'm ok, or wish me good night. That would be lovely. In another words, I hope to be loved and I'll do the same to that 'someone' too!
In any relationship, we create our own rules to 'rule' it or make it happen. Some girls, they are in a group, they make deal, that they'll have a monthly gathering, regardless of what happened and they will be there for each other, for whatever reason.
In a love relationship, both parties will make a deal too. Husband and wife will make a deal to have travel together every year. They make a deal that they'll watch a movie in a month. They make it a point that family comes first during weekends. That's like a contract, but if it's healthy, why not?
Love is not difficult. You just have to spend a little time look out for it, and eventually, someone will just appear without you realising it. I prayed and always thankful for what I have and who I have with me. It's not easy to get something out of no where, but if you start to appreciate, you'll get it.
To be loved is a blessing, and to keep it sparkle, to keep it bright, do your part. Keep a good mood everyday, smile or laugh as much as you can, you'll feel love, and you'll know, there is no limit of how you should love, or whom you should pour your love to.
Do share your love, spread your love and you'll feel love.
Join me to believe that there is love out there, and just open your hands and grab it!
I LOVE U Dear :*
