WHAT'S SINGLE MOM?

Just a sharing :)

What's love?
What's motherhood?
What's single mom?
Do we deserve a second chance in love?

When you shop, you only go to supermarket, buy diaper, milk powder, kids food - vitagen, hot dogs, honeys tar, ribena. The next department will be children department, you'll check on the discounted items, see if you can grab as much clothes as you can with RM 100 hahaha!

After that, you'll bring kids to Mc Donalds, order their favourite french fries, nuggets and ice cream. You won't dare to grab a bite, kids are priority!

Kids love to visit the toilets - they can pee, wash hands, blow dry their small littles hands. They can go to toilet 2-3 times in 2 hours, not really they've business to do, sometimes they just like to go there, to play with water while washing their hands :)

You'll try to minimise the chance to pass by any playground, amusement park - just afraid that they don't want to go home after playing.

You'll make sure your bag is stuffed with sweets, junks, chocolates or mamee, just in case they are hungry...

Being a single mother is tiring sometimes. Having to face the real working world, go home to face the kids jumping around and talk non-stop... but these are blessings! Not everyone is lucky to have kids! To me, I'm glad that I've my lovely mom and a great babysitter to take care of my boys!

• my mom does all the housework, she even iron all my clothes
• mom cooks daily with whatever ingredients I bought from the market with grandma
• I love to buy things, but I normally ended up buying groceries even if I plan to buy clothes or whatever
• I feel secured to see the fridge and kitchen is stuffed with food
• my mom likes junk food, she'll eat non-stop with my boys. When she feels heaty (throat is ithcy or coughing), she'll say, "Next time don't buy anymore." hahaha! After a while, when I buy again, she'll continue to eat. Even my eldest son, Foong-jai will say when he coughs, "Mommy, next time don't buy ice cream, make me cough." - who can resist ice cream leh? Adui! hahaha!

To me, I admit that I didn't really play a 'full-time' role as a mom. I have to work on weekdays, and weekends, I just lay in bed... hahaha! I even ask Foong-jai to take care of his little bro, Jern.

I seldom boil water, if I had to cook, I'll open baked beans and steam with the rice. One dish is enough! If I'm hardworking, I'll make some salad, egg mayonaise and eat with my boys. My boys enjoy bread with kaya, butter or mayonaise. They like sausages and ham too!

Suprisingly, Jern likes mini-tomatoes, lettuce - raw and he just eat like that~ lagi senang for me, no need to cook, wakakkaa! Teribble la me!

Ah... my favourite self-made dessert - agar-agar! I like to eat agar-agar. That's why I love to make it. It's easy, jelly, water, sugar, colouring and with longan and cincau.. hahaha! love it!

But lately, I've changed a little. I'm asking around for recipe and try to cook. I'll try to cook and some friends and colleagues become my 'piggies' hahaha cheers!

Ops! tired, need to rest now...

FORCE FOR GOOD

Touch your heart and ask yourself: Are you happy?... Think again...

You're definitely happier than those who are have to worry whether there's enough money for the rest meal, whether their health is ok.

• blind people who has to memorise the way home
• beggers who has to think where to go to beg
• handicapped who has to worry about no people is accepting them
• orphanages who don't have a chance for proper education
• old folks who have to worry whether someone is there to accompany them for dinner?

We always focus outselves and often forget to see around our environment. Although no one is asking us to help, no one cares whether we care, no one bother whether we are looking at them.

Some people likes to share jokes, share food, share thoughts. They are just looking for happy moments with others, not asking for anything in return.

Simple life starts from our thinking, do we think normal? or we are just too materialistic?

Do good and everything will be alrite! CHEERS!

LIFE IS JUST A JOURNEY

Looking out the window
I can see a colourful playground
Filled with people walking & children walking
The sun is hot, but it doesn't stop them from doing what they want



Looking up the sky
I can see the blue sky, the white clouds and can feel the wind blowing across my face
Birds are flying and trees are swinging, leaves are dropping and the street's busy

Looking at the people
I can see my family, friends and strangers
Family is an important 'gem' to us,
We cherish our love together, without them, our life is empty
Friends are our assets, we treausre the days we've known each other, sharing of thoughts and funny moments

Strangers are those people who walk pass us, either they are of familiar faces or not,
they've their own living and own views of life

It's important to have all 3, this shows that we are NOT ALONE :)

Let's cherish our lives and start smiling now :)

TIPS FOR GREAT LIFE!

Health:

1. Drink plenty of water.
2. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar.
3. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants.
4. Live with the 3 E's -- Energy, Enthusiasm, and Empathy.
5. Make time to practice meditation, yoga, and prayer.
6. Play more games.
7. Read more books than you did in 2008.
8. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.
9. Sleep for 7 hours.
10. Take a 10-30 minutes walk every day. And while you walk, smile.

Personality:

11. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
12. Don't have negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.
13. Don't over do. Keep your limits.
14. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
15. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip.
16. Dream more while you are awake.
17. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
18. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner with his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.
20. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present.
21. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
22. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
23. Smile and laugh more.
24. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

Society:

25. Call your family often.
26. Each day give something good to others.
27. Forgive everyone for everything.
28. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6.
29. Try to make at least three people smile each day.
30. What other people think of you is none of your business.
31. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.

Life:

32. Do the right thing!
33. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
34. GOD heals everything.
35. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
36. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
37. The best is yet to come.
38. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it.
39. Your Inner most is always happy. So, be happy.

LITTLE GIRL AND FATHER

Little girl and her father were crossing a bridge.
The father was kind of scared so he asked his little daughter,
'Sweetheart, please hold my hand so that you don't fall into the river.'

The little girl said, 'No, Dad. You hold my hand.'
'What's the difference?' Asked the puzzled father.
'There's a big difference,' replied the little girl.

'If I hold your hand and something happens to me, chances are that I may let your hand go.

But if you hold my hand, I know for sure that no matter what happens, you will never let my hand go.'

In any relationship, the essence of trust is not in its bind, but in its bond.

So hold the hand of the person who loves you rather than expecting them to hold yours...

This message is too short......but carries a lot of meaning.

ROMANTIC ROMEO ...

Does all guys have such qualities??? Keep searching Candy!!

• kiss my cheek when he sees me (say 'hi' kiss and 'goodbye' kiss)
• hold hands while shopping
• pls hold my handbag too, it's heavy
  
• go to wet market and choose ingredients with me
• wipe my sweat when I sweat at wet market especially, hahaha!
• go morning walk with me during weekends, followed-by wet market walk
• cook with me, he cuts the ingredients and I'll cook - pls wash the dishes too, hehehe!
• Eat the food that I cook and says "Wow, delicious!"
  
• go to night market with me, and we buy food and start eating immediately while walking, it's so great!
  
• invite me for movies, no horror, no assasins, no ET Alien movies - comedy, love stories, cartoons are fine
• touch my hand see if I'm cold in the cinema and let me rest on his shoulder
• accompany me to any lunch/dinner invitation - if he has free time
• bring my family out for dinner once in a while
  
• I would love to know his family too :)
• we should intro each other to our family, friends, and colleagues
  
• go karaoke with me even he doesn't sing! He can just eat and listen and pay the bills pls... hahaha!
  
• calls me 2 times a day - casual 'hello' will do.. just to make sure he's alive! hahaha!
• take care of me if I'm sick - and pay for my medical bills, hehehe!
• ask how are my kids doing, just casually ask will do, not necessary to go into details, at least he cares for my family :)
• I would be happy if he could bring my kids for outings, e.g. to the zoo, amusement park once in a while
• go for vacation together - 2 of us
  
• buy me a small gift every month - even a pair of earrings sounds cool!
• remember important dates, especially BIRTHDAY, VALENTINES, X'MAS, ANNIVERSARY - buy something slightly expensive pls... hahahaha!
• arrange for surprise once in a while, like special dinner at somewhere
• cannot complain that I have too many shoes, bags or accessories (I don't have many though)
• can he put my picture in his wallet and as his mobile phone's screen-saver? Either he puts a 'yellow duck' picture or my picture hahaha, choose!
• play with my hair, and please help to wash my hair, I'm lazy hahaha!
• massage my shoulder, especially after a hard day work!
• allow me to see other handsome guys, just to 'wash eyes', no intention la...
• same time, he can view other girls on the street, I won't mind at all
• cannot stop me from dancing! I hate clubs, but when I go, I enjoy the music and dance all night...
• go online together, surf the web or whatever
• like to snap pictures, I'm a camera freak!
• He can read my letters, but don't try to comment hahaha!
• He can read my sms, but don't try to reply :P
• He can pick calls when my phone rings
• He can scroll and see my phone book contact lists, I won't mind
  
• He can see my bank account, but pls replenish with some good amount! hahaha!
• touch my hands and put my hands on his thigh when he is driving (or when we are sitting next to each other)
  
• I hope that he reads politics, becoz I can't understand! I will take the 'entertainment' news...
• Can he just don't smoke? It's smelly la...
• It would be great if he is a great kisser... hhhmmmmmm
• I hope that we can talk non-stop and happy at all times
• I'm worried, if we are not talking... (ok, maybe that time will be kissing or sleeping hahaha)
  
• say good nite to me, it's sweet (I don't mind if his dream is of other girls, if I appear in his dreams, that would be nightmare I think... hahaha! - in real, he is for me, fair game!)

I have more to add, just can't recall hahaha!

CHEERS!