Valentine’s Day is one of those holidays we either love or hate, it's how you think!! This year, it clashes with 1st day of Chinese New Year, so I think those who are single won't feel so stressed up! hahaha!
Whether you are single, with no love in sight or divorced, a day that celebrates love and romance almost seems like an insult, and we somehow keep quite when people talks about it, in the office or friends gathering, no one likes to tell how 'lonely' or how 'empty' they are to other people. It's ok if you want to just laugh over the conversation and nobody actually notices hahahaha!
We don’t have to be single or divorced to feel that way either. If we are married or with someone who is not a romantic, just seeming to go through the motions, or at worst making no effort at all, that can be the loneliest feeling in the world. We get angry, disappointed, or wonder why we are with someone who is so uncaring and unemotional. Tired of the same old dinner together, the same old gifts he has been giving since many years ago or wasting lots of money for few red roses and these are sent just because your honey is afraid he’ll be in the dog house otherwise?
Hahaha, to me, Valentines' a great day to thank people that you treasure, even family members can be your Valentines' date. I am NOT worrying of not getting a date, and as I said this year, it's CNY, who cares hahahaha!
When dealing with anything in life, don’t let the day sneak up on you. Be prepared!
See if below could help you to feel better:-
If you are married to a non-romantic spouse-- accept it. Many women marry men like this and then spend the rest of their lives, trying to get a romantic response out of him. Sit down with him ahead of time and plan a romantic evening, but remember, you are celebrating your love as a couple, not just how much he is in love with you!
Men cannot read your mind. Don’t tell him you have no expectations or downplay the importance of the holiday, secretly hoping he’ll surprise you. Men who are not romantics will take you at your word and most of the time you’ll just end up disappointed. Be honest about your real feelings. If you want a nice dinner, or you want a new jewelry for your collection, TELL HIM! Don't try to hint 2 weeks before and get nothing at the end LOL!
If you are in a new relationship (and even an old one) and you want to encourage your partner, make sure you compliment, praise, and be grateful for anything you get, even if it is a card or small token. If you get upset and appear ungrateful, the response you will likely get is pure discouragement, and that might lead to fear of trying at all. Perhaps your expectations are too high or you just didn't show to him that you want him to do something special for you on Valentines' Day...
Treat yourself ahead of time. Knowing that you are going to get a massage or buy a new fragrance for yourself will make you feel loved, even if by no one but yourself! Give yourself a reason to spend and buy something that you really longed for, not necessary to be a gift from 'him' (who could be useless or didn't get your hint)
Make plans to have fun with a group of like-minded friends. Girlfriends unite! Go karaoke, dancing, spa day together!
Be a Valentine for someone who really is suffering and alone. Visit an old folks home, orphanage or special homes for special people, they deserve some attention too, and don't be surprised, your little gesture will eventually bring 20 smiles and you will smile for the entire year for doing good!
HAPPY VALENTINES' DAY EVERYONE, remember one thing, EVERYONE HAS SOMEONE... you are not alone, cheers!
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