20s VS 30s

Wondering what is this page is all about? Read an article about whether we are ready to take the mothering plunge ... hehehe, I was thinking, what is 'plunge' all about?


Hmmm... some got pregnant (accidentally at 17 and got married, they weren't ready... but have to go through it). Some got married for several years and still taking own sweet time, some just think that 'motherhood' comes in a package within a marriage, which is quite true though hahaha


Here are some ADVANTAGES when you become a mother in your 20s (just like me) YEH!

• Body bounce back to normal (but not me) but this is common among others hahaha
• Parents and grand-parents still around to assist when it comes to babysitting
• Plenty of energy to keep up with babies and young children
• Talking about career, you have the energy to move on, you won't feel so tired multi-tasking (even you have to take care of own babies at night)
• You can as many babies as you can, but pls look at quality, not quantity... hahaha

Well, the DISADVANTAGES will be:-

• Lack of freedom to socialise (clubbing, outings, gatherings with buddies) and travelling
• Could be an interruption of career path during 'peak years' for promotion, or career advancement due to some limitations and 'family thinking'
• You probably thinking why your other male colleagues are being offered with career opportunities while you are just sitting at the same chairs...
  
• Stucked at home if you have a husband who is always not at home to take care of your children
• Your friends will not call you as usual for party, they will 'assume' that you are babysitting, automatically, even you are not!
• Some financial setback, when buying new car or new house... one child could take up around RM 1,000 per month, this is no joke ;)

However, when you are in your 20's and you try to conceive, you will get pregnant easily and only 12 percent chance of miscarriage or having complications. Having babies at this age carry lowest risk of complications and abnormalities, which is good for both mother and baby. Getting pregnant is not only about getting a baby, mother needs support emotionally and family needs to be financially strong for an addition in the family.

Ooooo what if you are just ready to be a mother in your 30s, which is common, some of us got married in late 20s and decided to give 2 years for honeymoon, and here will be the ADVANTAGES:-

• Strong relationship foundation with your husband
• Definitely more financially stable compared to a 25 year old mom
• Feel a lot stable and settled down, be selfless
• Could have fulfilled some life goals, such as a stable career and enough of traveling
• Feel excited to have a baby in the family

Last but not least, will be some DISADVANTAGES.... (no worries, it's still do-able in your 30s)

• Energy level might not be as high as in your 20s
• Having a new bundle of joy needs $$$, and your house loan, car loan needs $$$ too!!
• Your husband might think of giving you a better life, therefore, he works late with the intention to bring home more $$$ (and you've to struggle yourself with your children most of the time)
• Stress as you might not have much time to read or ask about parenting
• Your parents might get slightly older and you have to find alternative for babysitting

Getting pregnant in your 30s, do it early 30s. As we grow older as a woman, babies are more at risk to have defects, or pregnancy complications that might harm your life. Not much of worries ... we have greater technology in medical to help, just don't delay ooh lala...

BE A HAPPY MOM, 20 years later, when you see your children graduating at the University, it's worth it... cheers!